Last
week I had my annual eye exam. When I made my appointment the receptionist told
me the doctor was only seeing patients now on Monday, Tuesday or Wednesday.
During my checkup I congratulated my doctor on his pending retirement. I guess
I was being presumptuous because he growled back, “I’m not retiring, I’m just
seeing patients three days a week.” I then asked if he had plans for
retirement, my guess is that he is in his mid-70s. Again he snarled, “Why would
I retire? I like working, what would I do if I retired?” He went through the
usual list of male retiree hobbies: golf, fishing, and travelling but none of
these appealed to him.
I have
had this conversation with many older male clients over the years and I am
still puzzled. If you have worked your whole life and saved enough money so you
don’t have to work, why would you still go to the office every day? Many men
will say, “If I stay at home my wife will get mad at me?” That answer has
always confused me, and maybe I’m being naïve, but why would your spouse be mad
at you because you are going to spend more time together?
The day
that I don’t have to work anymore I won’t, and there are plenty of other things
that I want to do.
Why is
it for some people that the idea of retiring is taboo, is it a sign of weakness
or insecurity? Do we define who we are by the hours we spend in the office,
sitting at a computer?
Last
weekend, the New York Times had a great article, http://nyti.ms/1G4tctv, on retirees and having a second
or third act in their lives. The idea of retirement for my generation and
younger generations should and will be different than our parents’. We are
living longer and the idea of hanging it up at 62 and moving to Florida may be
dated.
I like
the idea of a second act for retirees; volunteering in schools, mentoring, and
teaching. Who better to teach younger people than those who have the life
experience and time to give back?
I will
have had nearly thirty years of experience in the financial services industry
when I decide to leave my desk. I look forward to mentoring younger advisors
and college students on how to achieve financial freedom. I would also like to
own a wine shop.
Retirement
planning should not be purely about money; how much you will need or how much
you can afford to spend. It needs to be more holistic. Ask yourself, “What does
life look like after I leave my 9 to 5 world? How will I find fulfillment?” Life
is not linear; it’s never a straight line from point A to B. There are health
issues, or the company you work for decides you are no longer necessary. Mentally
we need to think ahead to prepare for these options and hone our interests in a
new world.
Retirement
should not be a death sentence. It
has so much more to offer than playing golf or cards. Retirement is a second
act to do something completely different, give back and enjoy.
The subject of
retirement is very interesting to me; I invite you to share your thoughts.